gay marriages

For those of you who don’t know this, I’m gay. For those of you who are ignorant enough (sorry if it’s offending you), you can call yourself gay even if you are a homosexual girl. So, I am a homosexual girl. 

Therefore, homosexual marriages are an issue for me. 

My straight friends ask me why. Why don’t me and my girlfriend just move in together and live as a couple. Why don’t we take care of all the things such as heritage and hospital visits legally, cause we can? Why do we have to get married? It’s just a piece of paper, they say. 

And I totally agree. It IS just a piece of paper. I CAN just move in with her. I CAN take care of all the legal stuff. I probably even will. I don’t need a piece of paper to prove our love. So I try to explain to them. I am not fighting to get married. It’s not what all those debates about gay marriages are. I am fighting for THE RIGHT to get married. I am fighting so I would have THE CHOICE whether I want to get married or not. 

I don’t want to get married. Not if were straight, nor if the law said I could. But I would LOVE not marrying to be MY choice. 

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I was amazed by this. So in my country, I can’t get married to a girl. Since I’m a girl. So the bad thing in my country is that I DO NOT have the right to get married. 
However, in California, they brought a law which allowed gays to get married. And then a bunch of … I’m not even gonna say it. But then it was taken away from them. Now… So it’s not that they don’t have the right to get married, as I don’t, but that right was TAKEN AWAY from them! 

How absurd is that?!? We live in the 21 century. And there is a person in California whose RIGHT TO BE EQUAL was taken away! 

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And what’s even worse… The ads?!? Can you really make an ad about taking someone’s right away, and show it on TV?!? What kind of person should you be to actually show your face there?!? You can’t tell me you did not see the faces on that 70 year old lesbian couple the day they got married after being together for 50 years, you can’t tell me you didn’t smile. 

The ads… I see an African American woman, telling me to forbid a girl from across the street to marry her girlfriend. Has this woman forgotten that if she lived just 50 years ago and wanted to marry a Caucasian man, she would not be able to?!? And you’d say it’s not the same. No, it’s not. Not now, this woman HAS the right to marry him now. But it was “just as bad” then. People DID make adds against it, people DID vote against it. How blind is she?!? How selfish?!?



I DO take this personally. Not cause I’m gay. I don’t want to get married. But cause I am human.